Ok I have this situation I would kind of like another persons opinion on. See I got this sight because my sister told me about and mainly because nobody I know has it so I can really say what I am feeling or thinking without being judged by the people in my life. Well my situation is I started working as a server in a truck stop about 2 months ago and I love my job but there was a customer who came in and just like any of my customers I was nice to him and had general conversation which is part of the job right. Well when he left he left me an extremely large tip, I am talking alot of money here. I ran after him when I realized how much it was and tried to give it back but he wouldn't take it. He said it was Christmas time and that was his way of spreading the Spirit of Giving. Well I asked a few coworkers and my mom about it and they told me it was no big deal he was just being nice. He came back in the next day and my kids and their dad were there eating. Well he came back a couple hours later with some movies he said he had watched so much he didn't watch them anymore and he thought my kids might enjoy them. I told him I could't take them but he insisted and said he wanted someone to get some use out of them since he didn't watch them so I said thank you and took the movies I mean I have alot of customers who will leave me little gifts they when out of the toy machine and stuff so no big deal right. Well he had given me his phone number and told me to call if ever needed someone to talk to but I just kinda blew it off but I did call to thank him again for the money and the movies because it was alot of money. He had come in another time but I wasn't working and he left some hot sauce and perfume for me at work then he came in about a week ago when I was working and said he was mad at me when I askd him why he told me because I didn't tell him it had been my birthday....I asked him how he knew it was my birthday and he said I have my ways....Ok. Well he gave me some money which I refused to take and then when he left I went to clean where he had sat and there was the money, more movies and a cell phone. I figured he forgot his phone so I looked at the contacts and was going to call one of them to have them let him know but the only contact in it was his cell number. About 30 seconds later the phone went off and there was a text from him saying that he would get a newer phone and send it to me. I just ignored it but last night one of my co-workers text me and said the guy had left a package for me. I text the guy and explained to him once again that I was uncomfortable with him giving me stuf and money. I mean I am not used to someone wanting to give me stuff all the time you know. I told him it made feel like I was taking advantage of him and his kindness. I am not sure why he is being so nice to me and wants to give me things. He says he is not wanting anything in return from me but don't guys always want something in return? He is a bit older then me....Well about 20yrs older. My mom says he is just a nice guy but I don't know. I mean how many people do you know that will give someone they have met a couple of times for such short periods of time so much like this guy...So anyways I am curious of what yall think. Stalker or One of The Nice Guys and am I just reading into the situation to much?
You're in the right to be concerned. It doesn't matter how much older or younger he may be, but since he isn't someone you know particularly well, and you aren't dating him, you need to draw your boundaries. For instance, he is a customer and you are the employee--it IS a little odd that he keeps sending you so many gifts. One gift or two is ok, but all these other ones are probably signs that he regards you in a different light?
My advice is to talk to him in a private area but somewhere when you're not alone by yourself and tell him in a NICE, CASUAL, BUT FIRM way that he should keep his gifts because it gives you more of a burdened feeling.
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You're in the right to be concerned. It doesn't matter how much older or younger he may be, but since he isn't someone you know particularly well, and you aren't dating him, you need to draw your boundaries. For instance, he is a customer and you are the employee--it IS a little odd that he keeps sending you so many gifts. One gift or two is ok, but all these other ones are probably signs that he regards you in a different light?
My advice is to talk to him in a private area but somewhere when you're not alone by yourself and tell him in a NICE, CASUAL, BUT FIRM way that he should keep his gifts because it gives you more of a burdened feeling.